If I join it, won't my wife see it video the facebook status updates (she is on my "friend" list)
I had that same concern. Do what I did. I created a new FB page with my screen name from here (GivinIt MyAll) (you could call yourself CIPA, whatever), tied to a new email account (can be yahoo, gmail, whatever) W doesn't know about. So, my DB FB page won't show up if you search on my name, and my W certainly is not a firend on that page of mine.
Look me up if you want.
Oh, and might want to de-friend your W from your regular FB page.
I tried to look you up with GivinIt MyAll and came up with a female in WI.
I am so bad at FB - my wife created the page for me.
Me 41 WAW 36 S 3&7 M 10 yrs W files D 1/9/09 W moves out 4/18 Lost job 6/15 New job 7/27 Disc PA 8/10 (started Nov 2008!) Confronted 8/11 Admits PA & appologies for hurt 9/11 Lost Job 11/13