Quote: oh my goodness!!!!!!the thoughts you have typed here are my exact thoughts!!!!!!!!!!!
wich ones??? they run the gammit as do all our feelings here. I hope that you can read through this thread at least the posts I've made and see that things can be possitve if you want them to. It's far too easy to get wrapped up in the negative and stuck in the who did and said what and who's to blame...if you have an opportunity to have a good marriage why not work toward that and try to put the past in the past.
forgiveness is not an easy thing to come by but I think far to many of the betraying spouses including myself get stuck in thinking they alone must forgive. We each must learn to forgive us and our spouses..forgive ourselves and forgive them..move on and make things better for ourselves and our marriages..holding on to the past indiscretions will not get us there.
Quote: glad you had fun at the anniversary party ... kissing eh? wouldn't you be doing the same thing if you were married to the same person for 50 years???
i can't even fathom that!
kiti, what was kinda funny is that as my h and I sat there (on one chair mind you) watching the couple dance, I counted out the years and realized it would be 2047 by the time we'd reach our 50th...I told him and thought we wouldn't be around then (not not together just that year seems to far away to still be alive) he looked at me and said you bet will will and kissed me on the cheek! I think he was assuming I was implying not together.
Quote: LL...I'm nearly speechless!!! I HATE to say "I told you so"...but I think I DID!!!!
shiny,
ya ya ya...you told me so. You and many others...I've been wanting to do it for a long time now...even thought of briging them with me when we went away for our anniversary. I'm glad I finally just did it but man I forgot how blinding these rings were...I took them off well over a year ago!
Quote: You know what I love most about this???? It was a two person job...you took a step in then h took a step in then you did then...
You see my point.
man, you've (both) come a long way, baby!
Sage
is this a virginia slims comercial ! I guess I just figured being stubborn about it wasn't getting me anywhere so I took a step and it was well received!
Quote: Comes back to the ASSumptions thing doesn't it...it very clearly states to me that mindreading doesn't work, we can't ASSume we know how they feel.
I'm stealing this from you--- very
Cathy
yes both h and I have made alot of false ASSumptions in our r...we're both getting much better at it or rather at not doing making assumptions or at least admiting to them soon enough to clear them away.
it's nice to see so many of you stopping by to offer smiles and congrats on my big baby step. Thanks!
Quote: Hi..LL hope things are still going smooth......was that "the" Tony I just saw a few threads back? Wonder where he's been....
Have a great week
Sue
thanx sue,
as far as I can tell things are still going smoothly round here...that's not to say that a stray evil thought doesn't cross my mind.."am I being duped".."what was their r REALLY" etc...but I think it best to just let what I do KNOW, SEE, HEAR, and FEEL speak for itself and say that things are good!
yes that was THE tony...he posted a new thread in the surviving the big d forum sad what his waw is doing to him..stealing money and all...check it out...I'd link it here for you but the browser I'm currently using doesn't give urls, for some reason that box dissapeared.
Quote: forgiveness is not an easy thing to come by but I think far to many of the betraying spouses including myself get stuck in thinking they alone must forgive. We each must learn to forgive us and our spouses..forgive ourselves and forgive them..move on and make things better for ourselves and our marriages..holding on to the past indiscretions will not get us there.
now this is a perfect example as to why the short period in wich we are allowed to edit posts is crazy!!
very 
