Quote: oh my goodness!!!!!!the thoughts you have typed here are my exact thoughts!!!!!!!!!!!
wich ones??? they run the gammit as do all our feelings here. I hope that you can read through this thread at least the posts I've made and see that things can be possitve if you want them to. It's far too easy to get wrapped up in the negative and stuck in the who did and said what and who's to blame...if you have an opportunity to have a good marriage why not work toward that and try to put the past in the past.
forgiveness is not an easy thing to come by but I think far to many of the betraying spouses including myself get stuck in thinking they alone must forgive. We each must learn to forgive us and our spouses..forgive ourselves and forgive them..move on and make things better for ourselves and our marriages..holding on to the past indiscretions will not get us there.
