It's not normal, but she and d8 did go to beach today, so I can understand that.
However, she just got out of shower, dresses in a mostly see through tank top, and stayed in the room with me to fold laundry for about 20 mins, and was pretty chatty. Well, chatty for her in the current sitch.
Laughing as she told me things that happened that day, and generally upbeat as she is talking to me. I kept some light conversation, and open ended questions, etc. Watching the red sox on TV, but I give her my attention when she is talking.
Then she asks me: I wonder if SS17 was embarrassed when he brought his friends over and his Mom is walking around in a string bikini?
Oooohhh I so want to rise to this bait, but I won't. That is classic way for her to fish for opinion or some comment from me on what she was wearing, in my opinion. I say nothing to this, and she eventually moves on to another topic.
Two days until another mediation meeting. The WAS are a strange breed for sure..
M: 41 STBXW: 41 D: 9 Bomb: 4/26/09
On board the D train now..
"Suffering is when we try to change what we cannot."
W just emailed me that she canceled the mediation appointment for tomorrow.
Here's her words exactly, it mentions the parenting class that we have to take as part of any upcoming divorce, but just cancelling the meeting. What the??
"I canceled the app. for tomorrow. I am waiting for him to call back to let me know when we can do that parenting class. "
I feel like a brick was just lifted off my chest, but I can't let that change my focus. Maybe she just wants to take the class and figure out what to do from there?
Ok, I need to calm down for a bit.....
M: 41 STBXW: 41 D: 9 Bomb: 4/26/09
On board the D train now..
"Suffering is when we try to change what we cannot."
I feel like a brick was just lifted off my chest, but I can't let that change my focus. Maybe she just wants to take the class and figure out what to do from there?
Ok, I need to calm down for a bit.....
Don't try to read her mind or figure out why. Just understand it might, MIGHT, be a good sign. Then again, it might just be that she couldn't make it, or the parenting class needs to come first in her mind.
Not being the negative one, and I really hope the cancellation was for the "right" reasons, but stay focused and don't read too much into it.
Yep GIMA, that's why I posted here first, I need to digest it for what is, and not what I want it to be.
My first reaction was she just 'blinked' but that puts me back into wondering what she is doing, waiting to react to her, etc.
I have not replied yet, but since I had taken a day from work for tomorrow, I am going to reply that since the meeting is canceled, I need to come to work.
I need to proceed on my plan for working on me, doing what I need to do, what I want to do, and continue....
M: 41 STBXW: 41 D: 9 Bomb: 4/26/09
On board the D train now..
"Suffering is when we try to change what we cannot."
My first reaction was she just 'blinked' but that puts me back into wondering what she is doing, waiting to react to her, etc.
Don't go there. What and why she is doing anything isn't your problem. Step back from HER issues and there's nothing to react to. There are then things for you to observe. Besides, you'll go nuts trying to figure her out - cuz she may not know either.
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I have not replied yet, but since I had taken a day from work for tomorrow, I am going to reply that since the meeting is canceled, I need to come to work.
Why not just "Ok"? Why does she need to know you'll be going into the office? "Ok" acknowledges you got the email without telling/asking her anything. Let HER wonder what you are thinking/doing by simply responding "Ok." Is he mad? Is he happy? What does this mean....?
I just replied OK, I like that, that puts it in her hands..
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Don't go there. What and why she is doing anything isn't your problem. Step back from HER issues and there's nothing to react to. There are then things for you to observe. Besides, you'll go nuts trying to figure her out - cuz she may not know either.
That's what I was actually trying to imply I was doing in my post. Not going to go there..
M: 41 STBXW: 41 D: 9 Bomb: 4/26/09
On board the D train now..
"Suffering is when we try to change what we cannot."
