I can't remember the exact wording, but basically, "I'm so sorry that you have been hurting, I can't imagine how difficult this has been for you, I have not held you here and you could have gone at any point in the past 9 months. I have asked you to please think about this for the sake of our son and try to find happiness within our family." I also asked what I could do to better help.
She said that she has seen amazing changes in me in the past couple of months but they haven't changed how she has felt about me so we must not be "meant to be together." I said that I would not expect her feelings to change so quickly if she has been hurting and developing resentment over such a long period. I also said that we shouldn't leave our family's future to fate. We need to make a committment to work together, not wait for fate to fix things.
There was a LOT of other !@#$!@#$% that came out, but that was the just of it. (along with "please don't swear at me or call me names. I am not raising my voice to you...)
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.