Jeff, we need a shooting forward that actually desires to run. Our two, are superb, WHEN the ball is dropped on their feet. If they need to exert any energy to get to it, we're hosed. We'll take S11, as he has to be an improvement! LOL
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
From the time S11 started playing soccer, he was more interested in defense than offense! When they played without a keeper, he was always the first one to peel back to try to stop the other team. Last year he didn't start out as keeper on his team, it seemed that the coach that decided that had his mind made up. Despite that, by the end of the year, he was the primary keeper, and did a pretty good job. It sounds like this year he is the keeper, though they have just started practice. He complains a little now and then because he sometimes wants to play defense. And actually, he'd make a good forward, he has a good nose for the ball, and he kicks left footed, given the choice, which catches people by surprise.
I haven't met a lot of 11 and 12 year olds who like to run!
Went to the driving range and then to dinner with another nice woman Saturday night. I think we will get together again. Unfortunately, see also lives at the far end of town, seems to be a pattern!
Went to my in-laws house last night for dinner, W and the two younger kids were there, as well. It was good to see then, and get good food. I haven't been cooking much, and eating way too much junk. S14 said that he can take the bus straight to my house on Friday evenings, though I'll still have to fetch S11. He said he'd have to wash his uniform (I think his PE clothes), I said, well, there is a washer and dryer. So W piped in something about the inefficiency of washing only that. She still wants to control, control, control. I muttered something about washing them with other stuff, if there was stuff to wash. But gosh, it's not her business!
I still feel some resentment, I still feel that she has been really selfish. But I'm trying to get through it, it isn't serving any useful purpose. And she probably has similar feelings, though I have no way to know, and it isn't my problem if she is.
Oh, how about this...
The woman I went out with Saturday has a 25 year old son. When he was 20 he started seeing a 35 year old married woman with three kids. She had another (I didn't ask whose it was) and then she divorced her H, and married him. Now, every morning, she gets up, goes across the street to her x's house, takes care of the kids, does stuff around the house, cooks dinner, eats with them and her X as a family, and then after dinner goes back to her new H. I thought I'd heard it all, but now I'm not so sure!
All you can do is laugh, or you'd cry! She tells herself it can't last... but there's nothing she can do about it. The "cougar" as the youngster by the uh, well, she seems to have control over him, and his mom hardly gets to talk to him. And he wouldn't listen if she did.
My sister had a nasty nasty D when her H had a PA. He was over 50 and never had kids but impregnated ow. ow D'd her H, and sis's xh and ow moved in 1/4 mile up the road from sis who retained the dairy farm. ow's kids from her xh would get scared by their new stepdad and run thru the cornfield to my sis's farm for help. Sis couldn't take the kids back because there was restraining orders on everyone for everything. It was nasty nasty!! Now, years later, sis's xh's W works for sis. xh's W even brings the kids along to play while she works, and xh comes and helps sometimes too. I guess we get used to the abnormal!
I gotta say Jeff, if I didn't know your whole story and just stumbled on your post that you had a date one night with a woman and then went and had dinner at your inlaws with the W and kids.....well....wouldn't that be pretty weird too?? LOL
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