Well yes, but I mean as far as pulling myself out of the immediate fire with her also.
Kevin
WHO GIVES A CRAP ABOUT YOUR W NOW??? WORK ON YOU AND TAKE CARE OF YOUR D'S....My God, you are so stubborn & resistant. WTH???
Did you look up the word PATHOLOGICAL? It = "Diseased" b/c your obsession with your wife IS just that. Enough.
Let her go so she can find herself and you can work on you. You obviously are not capable of the work you need to do, with her in your mind and heart all the time. You have no boundaries and you don't respect hers. The whole rolling your eyes and yanking d7's hand AT THIS POINT, is just not progressing. The money issues....did you actually join a health club? As if you can't exercise without that? And yes eating out is a huge cost that most people do not realize b/c they think $5 is not a lot for their meal, but that same $5 would buy a lot of chicken, spend another dollar and get a pound of rice, spend another $2-3 and buy canned vegetables or some fresh carrots or what's on sale, and for under 10$ you can make 2 dinners for ALL 3 of you. (Why do I think those sentences just flew by? Oh I know, b/c they don't relate to your w...)
And find some AA meetings during the day or before work b/c there are a lot of them. You might find a "nooners" meeting near your work.[b] Just get there.
I am praying your d's stay centered, somehow, and that they'll have friends and can find some happiness at this HARD time in their lives b/c middle school sucks for girls! It's hard enough in the best of times. Let alone worrying about their father's sadness and hopelessness...which of course affects them at a deep level.
I have a 12 y/o D and I fear for her in middle school. I really do. And my daughter knows people in her school, and she has friends already. And we, her parents, are together. And still, I worry for her. So when your focus is overwhelmingly on your pain and anger and frustration with your wife, it's clear your d's are not the priority they should be. That's why you haven't gotten them into c yet, BUT you make sure you meet with a priest who makes you feel better....
Why don't you rent the movie "Mean Girls" and talk with your daughters about it. Listen to them and their reactions....the film is about high school but it relates to middle school too, big time and is about girls. LISTEN to their fears and wait for them to talk about it...they will at some point. Please do not reject their feelings b/c feelings are spontaneous reactions we cannot control. Our actions, yes we control our reactions and what we do with our feelings, but feelings themselves are not moral choices. They are just feelings. Let your ds tell you how they feel.
Did you read CG's post? Did you READ IT and think about it? J-[/b]
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