Hang in there buddy, the pain and the anger are going to be around for awhile. When i found out my W was kissing her boss, I pretty much puked when I first heard, then the anger kicked in. That was over a year ago and I still have the anger at times. It's been the hardest thing in the world for me to forgive. Especially since she still has never apologized for anything.
Your W is following the cheating/lying script. They all do the exact same thing. Think of your boys and REALLY GAL.
Keep posting here often though this is the roughest time you're ever going to go through and I want to help you through it as well as others.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.