Where does your W go when she "needs her freedom"?
Detached means you let go of the outcome. Detached does not mean you are a doormat and don't set boundaries. Boundaries are when behavior is unacceptable. Knowing where your wife is going to be is not controlling, her response to you would be unacceptable to me.
You need to start leading.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
