in a few words cipa ....you could not have handled that any better then you did ...fwiw ..i commend you and have deep respect for that handling of the sitch. stay in that mode.
She knows I know. She called me tonite to try and drop more guilt on me. I just couldn't control myself as I told her that I knew about the other guys
She tried to deny it but then it got into a the details that I knew and I think she knew she was caught
I told her that I don't know what I'm going to do but she will hear from my lawyer and that I belive the boys need to know the truth
She tried to put the blame on me but I just stopped her and said I don't care what she thinks anymore as since she put someone else's penis in her mouth back in Nov, she had lost all right to put blame on me.
I just told her that I am done being blamed and that she needs to realize that I have lived up to my vows. She has now done the same thing her dad did to her mom and she needs to live with that.
She kept trying to flip it, but I told her that I will be back on Fri to pick up the kids and I will be going to CT next week with the boys. She can not stop me from going with the boys.
She tried to flip it again, but I just said that right now my priority is my family and right now, that only consist of my 2 boys. She is no longer part of my family.
I called my buddy to go to the house and he changed the locks for me.
Not what I wanted to do, but it is what it is.....
Nicely handled. Like we all have been saying. She's just trying to justify her actions.
DONT ENGAGE HER and YOU WILL FORCE HER to FACE HER CONSEQUENCES.
I asked because I think you can tell a lot about what the future holds during the conversation where they are brought out into the light, their cheating and lying.
I think more than ever, you need to be prepared for when the remorse sets in. I could be wrong, but I think it's coming. I think that last conversation....it was her feeble attempt to keep control. She underestimated you and over estimated her control over the situation.
If she had been crying and sad, and upset and embarassed, I would be more inclined to believe she was truly done with the marriage. I know it sounds odd, but putting myself in her disgusting shoes, that's how I would have reacted if I were truly done with the relationship.
I'm on facebook (as well as she) but did not know abut DB on facebook
How do I "join"?
Me 41 WAW 36 S 3&7 M 10 yrs W files D 1/9/09 W moves out 4/18 Lost job 6/15 New job 7/27 Disc PA 8/10 (started Nov 2008!) Confronted 8/11 Admits PA & appologies for hurt 9/11 Lost Job 11/13
My lawyers said requesting a DNA test will hurt my cause so he suggested using an internet kit.
I don't understand unless your W has to be notified about it. Anyway, I do know one person who did that with an Internet kit and it workded great and sure gave him the peace of mind he needed.
My lawyer said that I can currently move forward with the position of doing what is in the best interest of the boys. If I ask for something like that, how is that in the best interest of the boys?
I did chat with my lawyer again today. He tried to contact her lawyer, but he is out of town till next week. Major bummer.....
Me 41 WAW 36 S 3&7 M 10 yrs W files D 1/9/09 W moves out 4/18 Lost job 6/15 New job 7/27 Disc PA 8/10 (started Nov 2008!) Confronted 8/11 Admits PA & appologies for hurt 9/11 Lost Job 11/13
look for the group To DB or Not DB and request an invitation.
Anyway to narrow the search - I came back with 500+ results
Me 41 WAW 36 S 3&7 M 10 yrs W files D 1/9/09 W moves out 4/18 Lost job 6/15 New job 7/27 Disc PA 8/10 (started Nov 2008!) Confronted 8/11 Admits PA & appologies for hurt 9/11 Lost Job 11/13
