Seriously....how nutty is it all? Are you seriously concerned that she needs help beyond you?

This may have nothing to do wit you or your marriage at all. Maybe she's truly dropped her basket. Maybe you need to consider a true professional?

M-34/H-35/S-4
Bomb-11-08
OW confirmed 12-08-OW ends 6-09
D finalized 4-10
Stronger=Happy