Forget my idea... That was pre-multiple approaches about your wife and her TKD friend. At this point, she's not worth the mat she shares w/the Dali Lama (sp?)
I like your approach... I might use it myself someday. Not sure a hairdresser would fit the bill, though! I'm thinking a little more masculine! KIDDING!!!
OK, seriously, at least ya' know ya' still got it! Confidence booster? (Not bad after me or the mat evenings...)
So, my opinion. Something tells me that Mrs. SMQ is nuttier than you're even letting on... These little snippets keep coming out, leaving me w/my jaw dropped. Honestly, does she function normally during the day? Have a career? Carpool the kids?
ODD
You need some normalcy for you and your kids. You need some W boundaries. You need some increasingly smiling moments. Only you can choose you get those! If you're good, and you feel like you're doing the best for your family, that's all that really matters, right?
The continuous build of intel, and approaches by others regarding W, is not good. You need to get your arms around it, and resolve where you are with it, and define those boundaries.
I'm pretty opinionated, so feel free to ignore or tell me the shut the hell up.
MB
PS - Glad to see I still got it, too! LOL Good luck, bud!
Last edited by mindblank; 08/12/0903:01 PM.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
Mrs SMQ has been on a journey of self discovery for the past several years. She has been coming to understand her spiritual energy and past lives and obviously now searching for her sexual energy also.
She had been a most excellent friend, lover and was a fantastic wife and mother. She now believes there is a monk in spirit guiding her through this lifetime and her karmic destiny. And with a weird alcoholic friend and two lesbian sisters which she considers her earthly spiritual advisors has begun studying the magical powers of the Earth through Wiccan religon. There are periods of normalcy but they are usually filled with a meanness that neither myself nor my daughter can understand what brings on.
WTF. after reading what I just wrote I think Steve needs another haircut. LOL. I will write to you all later I have a few things to do this evening and really dont want to think about divorce busting right now.
Unfortunately for you, the hair grows at a controlled pace! LOL
Boundaries.
"Listen, Dudette MQ, all of this spiritual craziness, monk guidance, lesbian advising, magic powers, and Wiccanism are all fine and good for YOU, but you're affecting our home and our family. You've obviously taken it to a new level, in expanding spiritual to sexual healing... Either get your sh*t together, and choose to a wife and mother to the family we've created, or you're going to need to carry your mat on elsewhere. You're starting to freak us out, and you're becoming a detriment to normalcy. Not to mention breaking our hearts."
Seriously. I'm not so sure being so in the thick of it numbs you to the reality. That's just NOT right for you or your kids.
How's your S with all of this? Is he younger than D?
Luckily, you still sound normal. Funny, but normal! Hope you're having fun out doin' stuff!
I just had a martini, and a meeting with the soccer coach, who slurs in Scottish. It was fab.
Last edited by mindblank; 08/13/0902:40 AM.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
unhappily, yes. i have no reason to BS anyone of you. there are too many people on this site that are hurting and confused and too many other things to do with my life to waste your time or mine.
I would stop worrying about the other dude and start worrying about her well being. I don't even think you can drop the hammer now. I think you need to call someone who truly is a professional and figure out what needs to be done. People can be off their rockers and still function, for the most part.
I'm thinking a little more masculine! KIDDING!!!