Ya think? I saw this from day one, it's easy to recognise when you are a card carrying member yourself. Your R with your mom was a red flag. NG mentality is fixable but I still have to be aware of it.
Make it a goal to get your wife to touch, hug and kiss you first. This takes the pressure off you and you now get to be the one pursued. Makes you think and see things differently. If she is independent like you described I bet you have heard this, "Don't tell me what to do." Let it be her idea. Make yourself irresistable. Handle it.
I even fit the description of one of the examples whose name is the same as mine in hte first chapter!! How weird is that.
I will make it a goal that she touch, kiss me first. That's gonna take a lot of work as I was always the pursuer before. But, it can, and shall, be done. I can honestly say I began to feel the dynamic of our R begin to change last week (and even a little before that) that seems to have coincided with hte detaching. NOT a coincidence.
