I did correct myself in telling her that I did not approve of what she was doing.

I am also going by the case studies I have read in Divorce Remedy and what I talked to my Coach about which is I cannot control her or her actions. I can only work on my self. She has made it very clear she is going to pursue this affair whether she has my blessings or not. She wants a divorce. So what really are my options? I could file for divorce and make life ugly for her, but that will only push her further into the other man's arms and result in what she wants a divorce.