What is the thinking on contacting the other man? My brother in law said he had a friend that was in my situation and called the man and told him that his wife was thinking about spending the rest of her life with him - was he ready for that?
you might as well pick up her birth control on the way back from victoria's secret for her!
James, it appears to me from reading and commenting to your posts that you a searching for a magic cure and someone to tell you that by being her friend and doing this and that to accomodate her all will be fine in X number of days. Truth is there is no magic pill and this affair will always be an aspect of your marital relationship whether it is guilt she harbors or the anger and mistrust that you will have to deal with.
What concerns me the most is the disrespect you allow her to show to you. You seem confused and you are enabling her to treat you like crap. You allow her to travel half way across the country. And you tell her to have a good time. getting laid is a very good time. You know that she is visting another man. Yet you do not stop her and wait for her to return. what is stopping her from doing it again? not her husband of all people. you tell her you are working on you and she says good. why because she is not thinking about you she is thinking about someone else and would like you to think about her less so that her plan falls easily into place.
It is time for this to STOP! 90 day in house seperation. what is that about? time to get her finances and things together to walk out on you? you are going to be devasted when that happens unless you put a stop to this right now. You are more in control of the outcome then you think you are. SM
