The more I read your stuff, the more I am amazed at the similarities in our situations.

You're not alone. My first BOMB even came the same month as yours!

It all comes back to seeing things from her perspective. Keep in mind, her perspective is all jacked up right now, but it IS her perspective at the moment. Feeling that she can go to a concert, have some space, breathe a little and have some fun probably seems very appealing. Knowing that you're supportive by hearing you say, "have fun, I'm sure it will be a great show," would probably be nice for her.

It's excruciating to try to see their side some times, but you have to try.

btw...yes, I would have to fight the "what the hell?? this has always been our thing! Do you think that you are a 20 year old kid again? You better not be meeting up with guys...blah, blah, blah..." talk too. You just have to ask yourself..."will this bring us closer or further apart?"

Me: 35
W: 31
S:9
M: 10 years
Together 13
MySitch - Ups & Downs
She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.