I think he is truly confused and you need to capitalize on it. My H would have confusing times too and at first, I did nothing, thinking he need to work through it. But then about the third or fourth time, I started to "work my magic" during those bouts of confusion. I think we saw some positive outcomes. During those times, I would "remember" funny things that happened to us, or tough times we got through together. And he would always have that far away smile and I could tell he was remembering too.
I guess some might think it was sort of dirty to do that, but I figured I was up against a fantasy of a younger woman, no bills or kids or mortgages....so I wanted to remind him life is real and when it hits the fan, I'm not such a bad person to have standing next to you because if I have to, I will stand in front. I took those opportunities to remind him of that and the fun times.
