2) No one is a 'pawn' in this situation. Social Interactions occur between people all the time. It does not automatically equate to a sexual liason or a relationship. It is simply getting to know someone and knowing yourself better.
3) What I have been doing has not been working. And it is time to try something different. Remember, 180 = do the opposite.
Once your wife tosses aside the marital relationship then begins openly flirting with other men right in front of your face you have several options:
* cry (HA!) * be their friend and hope for the best while they are being someone elses friend (HA! HA!) * call their bluff. drop the rope and get on with your own life.
It is high time she wakes up and realizes that she had a husband that was crazy about her and loved her immensely. The bullcrap has got to stop. There comes a point of ridiculousness when the waiting, the disrepect, and the disregard has gone on for too long. It is emotionally and mentally draining. I did not ask for this and I have done nothing wrong that would require this much of a fight for my marriage. I am done fighting. I would like someone fighting for me for a change.
Now please understand, I did not go scuba diving nor did I have any intention of doing so. If I walked into that situation with the mindset, I am going to bang a cute little hair dresser; I wouldn't be posting here anymore because I would have solved my relationship dilemma and I do not need advice in that aspect of relationships. However, if my wife buys a sexy see-through teddy and is wearing it for someone else or comes home at 4am and her come stained panties are stuffed in the bottom of the hamper, that 40 something will be traded for two 20's quicker than she can say, he's just a friend.
With that said, I would like your advice on how to proceed. MB said, "I have an idea that worked for me/us. It got us out of the miserable stage, and into an enjoyable friendly state." I would like to hear. I am open to alot here. I am not looking for any free haircuts. I have two kids to care about and they are growing up learning how miserable marriage is. It is time to make her open her eyes and realize that.
