UGGH...exh is trying to be my buddy again and I feel myself getting sucked back in.

He is having some real problems with his oldest d14. She gets alot more freedom at her mothers and quite frankly I think the relationship between her and exh is so tense she doesn't want to be with him much anymore. Both of his kids really, but mostly the oldest. He just doesn't get that his choices, his behaviors, and his lifestyle has pushed them farther and farther away. He says they don't want to be with him because he doesn't have his license (aka my fault). I told him that made no sense.

He has been talking with me alot about the situation his d14 is having and is going 'make them come on his nights whether they want to or not'. Yeah, force them...that'll work! I did say once that I am surprised they don't want to be there as they always liked to be with us! He said..."yeah, I have alot of regrets and did some stupid stuff but I am not a bad person" I asked if he was happy and he responded with "no, not really. Just surviving for now. I just want to get back in my kids life and be with them as much as possible." I bet the new gf would love to hear that.

Why does he talk to me about this stuff? Why can't he talk to her about it?

Me: 46 FWS: 36
Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07
Baby Girl born 3/08
Kicked him out because OW: 7/08
5/10 He realized what he had and lost.
Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!