Ahh, you hit on a problem in our marriage. Not "my" kids, "our" kids. I have a really, really bad habit (only child syndrome)of saying things our mine, not ours (my wedding, my house ... you get the picture). I think my husband felt like he was living in "my" house and decided he wanted his own space. I'm working on that little gem as well!
So.... last night I call from school to say goodnight to the kids and H is not so nice to me, nothing major just tone. But I get home and am pretty happy b/c my prof. decided we were done with the class so I'm officially done with my masters... I tell H and he hugs me really tight, says congratulations and starts to cry. I ask what's the matter and he says he just has some days like this. Then he tells me that he misses me to which I reply, I miss you too, and the girls miss you. He starts crying again and asks me "what happened to us?"..... WTF (you "fell in love with another and moved out!!!)... DID NOT SAY THAT.... I said, "We're right here, we're right here".... that was as non-relationship as I could make it. At any rate, I gave him a kiss on the head and there were some words about how hard my schooling has been on the family, I apologized for that and he said he was sorry. He said he would always be there to support me (I have to take the CPA exam next and we were talking about me needing to prepare for it)... Overall, it was nice and he left on good terms (I should say he had had a few drinks so that's where the crying came from).
I thought he would be cold and distant this morning, or embarrassed. But he was pretty nice when he showed up with coffee. Tomorrow is his last "day shift" with our girls. I'm going to miss seeing him. But alas, I'm in this for the long run, right.
Stronger, I am on FB but have way too many work/family people that I don't know about separation. Can I send you my email? I'd love to chat/talk some time. I appreciate your insight and it sounds like you are doing pretty well! Chin up : )
HIW
M 35 H 37 Ds, 2 & 5 Married 13 years PA since March, bomb 6/16/09 sep. 6/23/09
HIW M 35 H 37 D 5, D 2 Married 1996 Dating 1992 Met 1988 EA/PA started March 2009 Bomb 6/16/2009 Separated 6/23/2009
