GAG, thank you! Your posts are so helpful and it is so good to have your support at this scary time.
I will keep up not taking things personally as to why I am not hearing from h. I feel I am in better shape at the moment to drop the rope in this way now I know that I have presented a normal and good version of me not the slightly unhinged, devastated person he saw the last time I did this (this time last year).
I can see from your post that I'm going to have to GAL to my fullest. My goal for when I moved back to London was to meet new people and try new things. It will also help me not to be reminded of my sitch.
H is firmly in OW fog at the moment. Everything is new and exciting. New job, new flat (again!), lots of money - he has already spent half of his money from the house in paying off credit cards/ debts and on new toys/ meals, and first class trips to New York for him and OW (glad to see she is paying her way!!). I had to check our bank account to see if my name had been removed and I had a peek. It has made me wholly glad that I have my portion which is still fully intact. If I said the amount he has spent I think many of you would be very, very shocked.
For my GAL plans I have found a walking association. They are a group of twenty to thirty something’s that walk in and around London. My first walk is on Saturday, so I am really looking forward to that as I love walking and they also include a pub stop I have also booked fencing lessons starting in September which is very exciting. I have found myself becoming depressed over the past few days so I know I need to deal with that - I think GAL is the answer. I have also started swimming again which is my first love and I had stopped so I hope this will make me feel better and get into better shape. I'm also going to look into some art stuff and some music groups.
I can't control h and his life but I can control mine. I can't be fobbed off all the time; it is not good for the PMA. I can't compete with this fog so I am not going to try. I have to trust that when he is ready he will make an effort.
I have also booked fencing lessons starting in September which is very exciting. I have found myself becoming depressed over the past few days so I know I need to deal with that - I think GAL is the answer. I have also started swimming again which is my first love and I had stopped so I hope this will make me feel better and get into better shape. I'm also going to look into some art stuff and some music groups. 
