Please, please, PLEASE... just take a goddamn risk woman. Go wild. Throw caution to the wind... you said, H will probably never have an open conversation with me... well then.. JUST HAVE ONE WITH HIM !!! Just say, H, its really wierd you wouldnt let go of me for 2 years, what was all that about? But I accept you are with aub and I move on and I am ok, but is there anything you'd like to tell me? etc.. Just do it, what on earth could happen? You clearly want to else you wouldnt still mention that he doesnt seem able to. You say he didnt mention the D, well he wont, he's embarressed, this is his fault hey and he is weak !! But I dont see why you keep colluding with him in the lack of honesty department, not now he finally wants to seperate his bills and is moving out of the renting-a-room sitch (is that to a flat with the aub???).
BUT.. the real reason I wanted to post was this...
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CEO.... is CEO. I got invited to a dinner party at his house in a roundabout sort of way- his friend called me and invited me, saying CEO was too nervous to ask me himself. The dinner party itself was fun. I was sat between CEOs friend and a designer guy. CEOs friend was funny- he told me a few things CEO had said but I couldn't tell if it was just drunk-speak, or actually the truth (he was very drunk because later in the evening he kissed my foot). Among these things were that CEO thinks I'm 'wonderful', 'absolutely beautiful' and 'out of his league'. I guess I'm suspicious because I know me, and none of things are really true. And how can I be out of CEOs league? Ridiculous- he's CEO, the seducer of women.
So, things continue in maybe a bit more of a friendly way now with him. We were texting for 7 hours on Sunday, and yesterday he had an emotional reaction to something I said about asking women on dates. I guess things may be coming to a head- we'll see what happens over the next week or two. Either that or I'll crack, initiate an R talk and shout 'JUST ASK ME OUT, FOR GOODNESS SAKE!!
Ok, so do it then. Life is short Lisa and yuo seem really into this man. How much more encouragement do you need? Whats the worst that could happen if he turns you down? You might look a bit foolish? You may have been mistaken? You may have to move jobs in 4-6 months when the latest project ends, oh well?
He got a friend to invite you because he WANTED you there, but was too embarressed to ask. he kissed your foot. He said you were beautiful and out of his league. Have you considered that you are self-sabotaging and putting up barriers to him asking you out? Becuase thats how it sounds for ages, reading your posts. For example, why would you ask him about texting other woman for dates, if you want him for yourself!?? I guess that would be pretty confusing/off putting for the poor guy, so no wonder he reacted badly? (or did I misunderstand the convo with him).
HE is too afraid to ask you out and look foolish, yet he has made it quite clear he fancies you. Seriously now (swings 2x4 about like a Russian shotputter).. whats stopping you just taking a risk and ASKING HIM OUT? Is it to do with not quite being ready to let go of H, which would be understandable? I cant see that he would turn you down and I'm not quite sure why you keep avoiding being honest with CEo and taking the leap to cross that line with him. We'd all be so thrilled for you.
Only trying to help here, noone else gets to be as honest hey, except us DBers ;-) Hugs Al xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
Al and T- interesting..... do you both agree on the H approach, or on CEO?
In relation to H, I'd say that I don't need to ask him anything because I don't think he'll have any answers. It seems to me from reading all the posts from formers WAHs that they didn't really know what they were doing after they left. I think my H will be the same. Besides which, I don't really care what he was thinking. Sometimes you just have to let go. I posted about H on my thread as somewhere to mention being sad about my D. Whatever H says about his behaviour I'll still be sad about getting a D, because who ever wants to have to do that?
CEO..... interesting most of all. I wonder if you guys missed this post from page 2 of my thread....
Originally Posted By: OD
CEO told me today that he was talking to his Mum about me at the weekend. He was apparently discussing my relationship with my brothers and Dad with her. Maybe I'd have been surprised by that, but I wasn't since we're going on the same holiday and I guess he probably mentioned me being there in passing and that they followed the conversation up.
BTW, he didn't kiss my foot- it was his bohemian art gallery owning friend who did that. And the conversation about asking women out was actually started by him because we were talking about whether I'd made anyone cry by refusing a date with them (no), so I returned the question. he then came back with a long -mail about how he hates the humiliation of someone saying no to him.
I can see that I need to take a stronger lead and I accept that. I think it'll be easier to do it in a sun, sea and yoga situation than in the office- watch this space!
CEO..... interesting most of all. I wonder if you guys missed this post from page 2 of my thread....
Originally Posted By: OD
CEO told me today that he was talking to his Mum about me at the weekend. He was apparently discussing my relationship with my brothers and Dad with her. Maybe I'd have been surprised by that, but I wasn't since we're going on the same holiday and I guess he probably mentioned me being there in passing and that they followed the conversation up.
I can't speak for anyone else. I am playing ostrich, ignoring it, and hoping it will go away!
You bet will be watching!!! Lisa I really really wish and hope for you to come back...double (as we say)
It sucks to be willing and able to give and love, more than ready to accept love and waste time playing games that dont get you anywhere. In your case, I think CEO's snake will finally meet Mrs madame Beaver alright!!! Love S
