Thank you both for your posts tonight. I just had an unexpected visit from my BIL and his fiance tonight- they came over to check in on me and of course we talked quite a bit about my W and our sitch.
They told me that from what they understand my W is really testing everyone's patience. She is telling everyone how everyday she is spending time with her best (girlfriend) when in fact everyone knows she has been with OM the entire time. My kids have been over at my in-laws with my W coming home around midnight the last few days. Apparently my W is now pressuring my SILs to take my kids over to their houses this week for back to back sleepovers to spend more time with her "best friend". My SILs are apparently very pissed off and are not cooperating.
The last night or two my W apparently came home at my in-laws at around 10:00 p.m. and went straight to bed. On one of those nights, my BIL here got woken up by a TM from my W at 1:00 a.m. saying "(OM) says Hi!" My BIL TM'd back asking what the hell was she doing and she TM'd back "(OM) just thought it would be really funny." My BIL TM'd back asking where the kids were and my W responded they were at my in-laws. My BIL then TM'd my MIL who in turn called him a jerk, saying she saw my W go to bed at her place around 10:00. Apparently my W had "gone to bed" then snuck out of the house later on to be back with OM for the night.
My BIL TM'd my W back asking what the hell she was doing and she responded "(OM) and I are just talking. I'm a married woman, give me a little credit."
Folks, I'm thinking my W's EA and now PA has morphed into some sort of MLC. I'm also thinking that OM is actively trying get my W to burn all bridges with everyone and isolate her to get complete control over her. This assh*le is a complete psycho predator. It's getting very difficult to stand down and not do anything- I know my W has to pull out of this herself and crash hard but she has lost her mind. Just wondering if I shouldn't try to fly out, get the car and the kids and bring them back- although they are safe with my in-laws. I'm thinking that if I did retrieve the car and kids my W would probably stay behind- she is acting like someone on a massive cocaine binge. Bringing the kids back is her biggest incentive to come home right now. And yes, I'll be trying to call the bank and credit card companies tomorrow in between a very busy schedule at work.
I'm in uncharted waters here and would appreciate any feedback.
M: 41 W: 39 S: 11 S: 10 D: 4 1st contact w/OM: 1/19/09 EA began: 2/14/09 EA discovered: 3/1/09 I file for D 8/25/09 to protect myself _______________________________
