The way I see it is that I have to take greater control of my life.
The issue with letting my wife control the finances is a good example. My mum has always said this isn't right but I've let her because I figure if I get my own stuff - weekly exercise / sport & watching my footy team on tv - I'll let her get everything else.
I think I should have set better boundaries and been more active in trying to get her to do stuff for herself more. I think in some ways this whole episode is because of this - she hasn't felt she does enougth for herself and is now going extreme in doing whatever she wants. I also think that this is typical teenager behaivour because she simply hasn't developed emotionally into an adult.
It is going to be a long long journey. I have to be very careful about upsetting her because if for example I state I want greater control of the finances she will go off her nana. Now all I can do is do things for myself that do not impact her. I'm basically a baby sitter that allows her to go out when she pleases but as everyone on here has stated that has to occur for the time being.
Some one here posted about being a doormat - well that is not good for the self-esteem however on the flip side it will probably make me more humble.
Things I've done / will do this week: 1. Go to Buddhism classes this week. 2. Go to counselling. 3. Get hair cut. 4. Buy some new clothes. 5. Exercise at home - at least I know I'm losing weight. 6. No Sport - until I get my head on straight 7. Relax & read more. 8. Go through "no more mr nice guy" philosophy and try and see what I should do to change myself.
Basically with her changing so much I'll probably do the same. The only difference I see is that my belief is that she has done stuff without thinking it through. I'm going to try and do things slowly and calmly.
