however if it doesn't and I have to accept that I cannot control this how do you move on ? Are their classes / courses ?
Hi Steve - absolutely there are classes and courses. In the major capital cities and regional centres Relationships Australia have counselling for individuals and couples and they run courses on Surviving Separation and Divorce. I did one of their courses in Canberra a couple of years ago and it was fantastic. It was also a good way to meet others going through similar stuff.
There are also programs run by non-government organisations and churches on dealing with separation and marriage issues. I believe some of those are quite good too.
There was an Australian girl from Cairns who used to post here and she did some DB telephone counselling that she thought was A1 - so that's an option for you too.
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As a side point has everyone who has been through this feel they improved on themselves. I personally feel like this is going to change me significantly - even though it is hell I hope I can grow as a person.
My friend - you will be a different man on the other side of this - no matter the outcome. You make the decision as to if you'll be bitter and twisted or stronger and more resilient. You have the power to make that choice and it looks like to me you've already chosen.
This is a really tough time for you and as Mach said earlier sometimes it will feel like a rollercoaster - but it is also an opportunity for you to grow through the pain and be the man you respect and admire - the man you want to be ...
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