I just want to say thank you for everyones comments. This is the most horrendous time in my life and I admit I am having trouble dealing with it.
Its good hearing from d1 that his situation is very similiar to mine. I hate to hear anyone going through this but at least I can see that I'm not the only one. Also their behaivours appear remarkably similiar - it is in a way funny.
She has used the controlling line on me - like letting her control the finances even though I earn twice her income, letting her work full-time, letting her socialise with her friends & family over the course of the marriage. She wanted kids early and I said no worries. Letting her do whatever she wants basically. I think her idea of controlling is if we discuss anything she has to get her way completely.
I also feel I should try and get this to work even if the situation appears unrepairable.
As per everyones comments I think the best thing I can do is just accept the situation. Fighting it won't work.
I also like the idea about working on yourself. In a way that is what my wife is trying to do (unless she gets diagnosed with a mental illness which wouldn't surprise me).
I have counselling coming up in a week or two. It will be interesting what happens then & what the counsellor thinks. I know that I need some professional help for myself.
