Hi Friend, I've been thinking about ya. You probably feel that if you can make it through the next couple of weeks, then you can make it through most anything. However, I have learned that life always has something a little bit harder to throw at us, so what is happening now usually is preparing us to deal with things in the future. Okay, with that little devotional behind us......

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Yet, I continue to be reminded by family members that my W's free will trumps my obligation to protect her.


We have discussed how MLC is almost like a disease, and how we would treat our spouse if they were sick, etc. However, we know she does not have a disease. Anyway, I think your family wants you to stand up for yourself. What do you want to do? As a woman who came very close to walking out, I would say that your W needs to have a slap of reality. She needs to see something thaT SHE WOULD "MISS" IN HER LIFE. i AM NOT SURE THAT HAS REALLY HIT HER YET...THAT YOU WOULD NOT BE AROUND TO BE "HER BEST FRIEND". sHE NEEDS TO KNOW THAT SHE HAS CROSSED THE LINE AND YOU WILL NOT CONTINUE TO ACCEPT A m THAT ALLOWS ADULTRY. yOU KNOW, bj, THAT IS WHAT YOU WILL BE DOING IF YOU (sorry, I did not realize I was typing in caps)....what do you think her next move will be? Do you think she plans to come home and talk to you about her love affair and that you will be fine & dandy with everything? How brazen is that? But, she talked about it "before" she left! I guess what I'm saying is that you have done all that you could do and she still chose to disrespect you, God, the Church, family on & on.....and in her mind she got away with it! There has been no consequences! Don't you think it is time that she sees the consequences of her decisions? Has she had to suffer anything b/c of having an A with OM? Has she had to do without anything since she says that the two of you are S? She continues to go to Church camp and go about life as if nothing is different. Nobody is making her accountable.

Well, I have to go b/c somebody ghas come in. Talk to you later.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!