Gotta Keep Trying 2

[Looking_For_Help]

Hello GIMA,

I believe my situation may be going in the right direction. We had a mini family vacaton this past weekend where my W completely arranged everything. She's really trying to make our relationship work. No hugging or kissing yet, but I'm working on it.

This weekend, we are going on our first date in nearly six months. I'm handling all of the arrangements this time. I stated to my W that if we're going to try to make this work, we need to date on a regular basis. In addition to weekly dating, I proposed that we take 30 minutes out of each week to go for an evening walk without the kids. Our babysitter lives next door, so this should be convenient for us.

I have been reading "Light Her Fire" to find suggestions on repairing our marriage...hope it works. W is still reading "Five Love Languages" and told me that her language is "act of service." I had a feeling that this was the case. If you know your wife's language, use this information to your advantage...speak to her in this language.

Now enough about me...it seems your W is still in the "fog." I am a firm believer in Gucci's theory on snapping the WAS out of their funk. I suggest reading some of his posts. The fact that our wives never left us tells me that they always had reconciliation as a goal...they just wanted to see if we would actually change. So keep "fixing" yourself.

Keep focusing on you!
-LFH