We S and I let her have the kids half the time. I made sure to stay busy and went out and GAL as much as I could.
When the WAS leaves us, they leave our self-esteem in shattered pieces. What you need to do is get that self-esteem back. Think of it this way...YOU are the better person. YOU aren't cheating. YOU are who the kids will look up to. The next person you go out with is going to be lucky to have YOU.
Let's face it. Your W doesn't really have the OM. He's married, end of story. So she gets him a portion of the time. You, on the other hand, have a marital history with her that has become dulled due to the fog she's in.
My W is living at home again and we get along great, platonically. If she one day tells me that she's leaving, I'm detached enough that I could laugh at her face and tell her to go ahead because I KNOW that I'm the best person she's ever going to have. Only I would go through all the abuse that she put me through and still stick around by her side. I have my self worth back.
It's time to get yours back.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
