I suppose I'm just dissapointed in h that he couldn't come to me, that he couldn't express his fears to me and instead chose to hide in an illussionary world w ow and then avoid me.
It's easy to understand the frustration behind this disappointment. I think that all of us have been there, done that, and know the feeling of emptiness that can lie behind it.
Expressing our fears to another person, even people who are closer to us than anyone else, can be a hard thing for a lot of people to do. In fact, it sometimes seems that the closer you feel to a person, the harder it may be to open up to them. Especially us guys, I think. We can become very "vulnerable". It can be pretty tricky to find the right combination of things that can be done to create enough of a "safety-zone" where we first even admit these fears to ourselves, let alone another person.
I think I know that you're not like this, LL, so you might have a hard time really understanding why this is so, and how it can be. Maybe it might help to take a step back from trying to understand it, and take a few minutes to "accept" it. From there, it might be a bit clearer on what could be done to change this.
Has there ever been a time when you feel that your H has been comfortable expressing any of his fears about anything with you?
JJ
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