Seems like I'm on the ascendance in the niceness stakes. Everyone is seeing me as Mr Nice Guy with a stupid W living with crappy "friend". Now she's getting the cold shoulder mainly because of living with said "friend".
What a load of cr@p. I'm NOT doing this to "win" a game!
Of course you aren't trying to "win" a game. But everyone has an opinion. They are entitled to their opinions and you CAN NOT shield your w from their opinions. This isn't about you being better or her being worse.
Perhaps you could refrain from heart to hearts with friends. I know you need support, I know you need your friends, but man 0h man you have to be selective what and with whom you share. People do take sides, but this is not between you, the W & your friends.
The only 2 people that know everything and every nuance is the two people in the relationship. We here will not tell you down the road that you shouldn't give her the time of day or to stop wasting your effort. People in real life will, because as friends they don't want you to hurt.
Keep a tighter lip, bud. Because if and when you restore your M, these same friends will still be in the picture presumably. How are they every going to accept her back in your life if they know everything?
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
