I'm not sure anymore that I believe that this approach will always be successful, but I also don't believe that every marital rift has it's roots in this type of problem. And no mention is made here of involvement with another, a matter which is incredibly hard to deal with using such a laissez-faire approach.
But for so many who come here with a spouse who seems to have "wigged out" into a person they do not recognize, so much can be learned by what the writer refers to as "the End of Suffering." In the midst of our worlds being turned upside down by such a shocking revelation as "I don't love you anymore, and I'm not sure I ever really did," it's so amazingly difficult to not take on the role of victim. And yet it is the victim role that leads us to anger, frustration, a thirst for justice, and feelings of deep offense. I'm pretty sure none of those things are helpful in dealing with such a crisis.
Thanks for sharing. I think this will be helpful to many.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
