So, after a lot of thinking and realizing that by not responding to any of her 'do it yourself' divorce requests I'm just trying to control her. That's stupid.
She isn't asking for anything beyond not being responsible for our back taxes and back mortgage. I keep the house (if I can) and all the contents. She just want's some of the kitchen appliance that I wouldn't use anyway.
No alimony, $200 child support for D13, Pay monthly health care for kids and her. I'd end up paying the taxes and such anyway since she barely makes ends meet.
Pretty good deal given the circumstances.
So I called her and asked her to give me a list of paperwork I need to submit so we can get them filed by end of August.
She seemed surprised, and said "So you're ready to get this done?" and I just said sure, just find out what we need to do.
She said she'd call our documentation person and find out. I told her I wanted to close the joint checking account and just write her a check each month. She said that was ok.
Then I said she should come by tonight or tomorrow while D18 and D13 are out of town and take the things she wants. She wanted to come tonight around 7:30 or so and I said that wold be fine, I won't be here anyway. Take what she wants. I've already left some boxes in the living room.
She wanted to leave a list and I told her not to bother.
Regarding her trip, I spoke to her Brother who lives near her mom. He said that OM was a spineless person who had no opinions on anything, and when he did talk he mumbled a lot. He did whatever she told him to do. Said STBX 'hung all over him like a teenager' and told her mom many times how happy she is now.
We'll see. Regardless I'm done. She's been with OM for a year. Time to get this done.
