You've got to read DB and DR as quickly as possible. It's obvious she left you to pursue this other guy with a "clear conscience". I went through the same thing with my W wanting a D without warning, and blaming me for everything until I found out that she wanted to do her boss.
I followed DB and the advice of people here and have been able to change things around somewhat.
First thing to realize is that you can't control her actions and her feelings. Get your balls back from her. Be the dad you need to be. Detach and GAL. Go dark and don't contact her at all. Show her that you've got everything under control. That you don't need her.
It's going to be hard as hell, but you can do it. Just take it one day at a time.
Did she take everything from you in the D?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
