trying hard to figure things out

[MichelleLT]

When you are tempted to contact him, get on here, or go for a walk, anything but give in.

When you need to contact him because of financial things or splitting up bills or whatever, take time to decide what you're going to say.

When I first got on here I was told over and over and over to not react to things emotionally, to think things over for 48 hrs before acting. It was some of the best advice I've ever gotten.

On the MLC forum, the chapter from Michele's book is posted. It's a very insightful read if you haven't perused it already.