This is an interesting thread. I've been lurking for a few weeks, but have not posted until now. Here are some of the things my W has said so far:

- I love you (or care about you) but I'm not in love with you anymore.

- I've given you all I can - I just can't take a chance on getting hurt again.

- We can still be friends for the kids' sake.

- I need to find someone who can love me like I need to be loved.

- There are people out there that are as happy as they portray in the movies and I think I can find that.

- I'm not leaving you for him.

- Please tell me how to change my feelings.

- You haven't changed in 20-something years, you never will.

- You can't love me like I need to be loved.

- Kids are resilient - it will be hard on them but they will adjust.

- This is hard for me too.

- I have to do this for my survival.