Thank you Deep...I would love to be able to say that however not sure I have it in me...I am the consumate people pleaser and won't say anything to hurt anyones' feelings unless I absolutely have to...Took all I had to be businesslike yesterday when he was here
Try it; you might find you like it. Maybe start out with, "Thanks, I love me too."
You know, other people's happiness isn't your responsibility. Will you sacrifice yourself and your own happiness forever so that you can act in a way that is pleasing to others? I've watched my H martyr himself for years...it was such a source of his personal unhappiness. He's better than he used to be...but my boundary was that he couldn't drag me into his crazy.
I do things to please other people all the time, but I do things that please me simultaneously. I'll make a smoothie and offer my H some; he's happy I did something for him (big gifts and acts of service guy), and I'm making a cup of joy for myself. But I won't sacrifice myself for anyone else...uh uh.
It's okay to say you love yourself. It's okay not to reply as you're "supposed" to. Being "nice" is no substitute for being completely authentic and true to yourself.
Live truthfully. It's tough at first, but since I rarely compromise who I am anymore, I have no regrets or worries. Others' opinions about me and what I do are THEIR business, not mine.
Besides, your H is baiting you. Keep you on the hook because he's a big chicken and not really sure what he wants. So he keeps tossing you little pieces in the hope you'll keep worrying over him.
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
