T Your feelings are valid Im glad you did what you needed to for yourself You have been extremely kind and patient toward XH YOu were supportive during this recent loss I dont blame you for not attending I would not have either continue to just take care of yourself I dont thibk it really matters what we do as far as xh are concerned I mean being cordial and kind is enough Your XH will continue on the same path no matter what you do detachment is probably the best and wisest choice preserve yourself now- he has taken enough peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
No one really has a clue what we go through unless they have experienced MLC or whatever it is.
It is time to protect our survival and peace.
I have expressed to ex how sorry I am for his loss.
Now I am back to going no contact.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
I feel an explosion coming. Today he sent me the child support papers to fill out. I have not even opened it yet, and probably won't. Instead of going to court as scheduled, he just wants me to sign a paper with his proposed amt due to son turning 18. Fat chance......
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Stick to your guns T. I have a similar court case pending only mine is about our total finances. We made a legally binding agreement with our Ls last October and since April H has been seeking to get out of it and wants more money. Couldn't understand why at first but then discovered OW was pregnant and as she is due on Christmas Day all the timescales now fall into place. I just hope 24th Sept is a lucky day for me.
Keep strong
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
So you papers didnt already come with a reduction at 18? Mine sure did and his lawyer even put in there I could not take him back to court for a change of circumstance when child support stopped...of course my lawyer didnt catch that...or didnt tell me that and I read it after......my attorney big waste and i still owe him money...ughhh
In my state, the person who wants to change the child support has to petition the court. No lawyers really need to be involved. The judge looks at it and lowers the amount in the divorce decree. Ex just wants to set an amt (very very very low) and have me sign it. He is afraid of something. Maybe his income increased, I have no idea.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
ACJ, Praying for you....... It will be a lucky day.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
