What's up with these women? Are they ashamed of what they are doing? It's true, they don't think anyone will notice when we are living in different houses?
Wouldn't YOU be -- esp. with people at CHURCH???
Orich, I know this is difficult, but you need to have more empathy for what she is feeling in this regard. Our goal as betrayed spouses is to always try to convey BOUNDARIES, and upholding HOLINESS (for those so inclined), without in any way conveying SHAME.
Your wife needs to know that maybe she felt shame when she was WAYWARD, but if she comes back and WORKS on this with you, that anyone who has anything to say about it will have to GO THRU YOU!
Let her know you have her back.
Puppy
Puppy,
Good post. Any chance you could bounce over to my thread when you have a moment? I'm looking for some ideas on developing boundaries with my W. I'm getting a lot of family feedback about separating from my W at this juncture. We can't afford it financially at the moment but I'm getting shredded emotionally right now. Thanks.
Orich: apologize for the hijack. I'm keeping an eye on your thread. You and your family are in my prayers. Hang in there.
M: 41 W: 39 S: 11 S: 10 D: 4 1st contact w/OM: 1/19/09 EA began: 2/14/09 EA discovered: 3/1/09 I file for D 8/25/09 to protect myself _______________________________
