Steve, let me just say this - the confusion you are feeling is normal. The ups and downs and everything in between - all normal.
So, the first thing you have to decide is if you want to try to save your marriage. Only YOU can make that decision. And I assume that since you came to this site that you want to.
If I am wrong, let me know and we will still help you get through it, if you want us to.
Ok, so, your wife is going through a crisis. Doesnt excuse her actions, doesnt invalidate your feelings, its just what it is.
So, with you accepting that, you have to start to take the steps you need to get through this.
And they start with you. You have to step back and let her be. She needs to get through this in her own time, in her own way.
What you need to do is begin to look at the changes you need to make for you. And there are changes you to need to make.
Start by really looking at your marriage with a clear mind. I am sure there are things about it that you wish were different. What changes could you make that would help that?
See, dbing is about us. It's about us becoming the best person we can and sometimes, it saves marriages.
But I can promise you that if you take this journey, you will learn things about yourself that can change your life.
The people who have been to your thread are some of the wisest, kindest, most genuine people you will ever get to know.
And please know that they have the purest intent and that is to help.
So, what do YOU want to do? If its give this a try, then roll up your shirtsleeves and let's dig in.
