What has worked for me/Update wife said she done

[billclay18]

whereami,

Thanks for the re-cap. Our sitchs seem quite similar. W told me she wanted D middle of June. We have lived as roommates since, although sleeping in same bed. After the initial 2-3 weeks of emotional ups-and-downs, I've been quite even keeled (not always the case in the past...definately one needed change on my part), friendly but not too friendly (almost neighborly), detaching somewhat for my own good, keeping busy, staying out of her biz...GAL! She has not filed.

She's moving out on 8/29 and I am soooo looking forward to it. I realize separating is not always a good idea, especially in cases where LBS has been a "deadbeat" partner and needs time with WS to show changes. Our situation was completely different...I was the "do everything" partner. She needs a glimpse of life without me. I will use that time to continue working on myself, having fun and moving on with my life without her. I'm fully prepared for the finality of it all if that's what happens, but leaving the door open a bit...for now.

Thanks for sharing your story...good luck to you.