Divorce begins in the mind. As long as you're the victim, you're someone who's being divorced. As long as the hurt is so painful, shameful, consuming 'getting divorced' is the reason. Why the hell tell the guy that a divorce is causing you to take a job you find degrading? "I'm getting divorced." or "I'm looking to make extra cash." With one you're limiting your options, the other you're not dependent.
You do what you have to do. Cutting back expenses, not buying the best of the best are all part of the transition from a single household to two. If the funds are not enough, talk to your lawyer about an increase in child support, alimony. Show the numbers, have your wife show hers. The primary caregiver who gets the house and the children usually gets into financial trouble because they're house poor. I know that's why I'm selling the house I got in the divorce to be able to afford a life with my kids rather than big house upkeep.
It sucks big time, but you have the good stuff, quality time with your kids. In the agreement does your wife have the right for first refusal? That if you're not able to be with the kids she has the option of taking them? Consider that. Worst case you'd only have to pay 50% of the camp expenses.
I apologize if it seems like I'm doing that whack, wild woman, avenging angel thing. I'm sorry you're going through this brutal reality of the economic differences during the divorce process.
Hope you enjoy the ministrations of your Florence Nightingale and the date with your wife.
