I want my Monkey and Sheep Back

[Serenity13]

Hey Beep...

I have been the same way with my weight the last few months...I was to the point of not eating a thing and dropped almost 50 lbs in less then 3 months...Still haven't gained any back and keep losing about a pound every 2-3 days...I am just now getting my appetite back but I can eat and then step on the scale and it says I have lost another 2-3 pounds...Not sure what that is about but wanted you to know I have the same thing happening...

As for this -

D:

I would really appreciate it if you
email me back very soon as I need a
copy of the marriage certificate
before Friday.

Thank you

B

Try this instead...

D,

Please email me by the end of today
and let me know when I can get a
copy of the marriage certificate.

B

Remember - Business/short and to the point

[Virtually_Handsome]

I got confused.... what's the purpose of the visit to immigration?

[beepee]

Jeff:

The purpose is to discuss with them the form that he wants me to sign because he's not giving me any other information regarding it (i'm not signing it either way).
Also, I know that he is applying for a waiver of joint signatures due to emotional abuse because after extensive research and phone calls, it is the easiest way to file and get approved as you don't really need evidence and it doesn't have to go to trial and the accused spouse does not have to be called in to defend themselves.

So I was told by USCIS to actually go in and speak with them in person in order to protect myself. That's all I want, not to screw him over, not to prevent him from staying here, just to protect myself.

[beepee]

Serenity, its good to know that I'm not the only one with the weight issue, thanks for letting me know!!

And I like your email much better than mine!

[Serenity13]

I would say it sucks but I needed to lose a few pounds

I didn't need to lose them that quickly but it is what it is...

I still can't eat like I used to and there are still times that I go 3-4 days with no food but I am hoping that will eventually go away as well...

Puppy has trained me well with the whole businesslike behavior...

You aren't trying to be a b***h but don't make it easy either...

Make him think...

Yours was to polite (no offense) and you have a point to make so I changed it for you...

This way you stated what you wanted as well as gave him to the end of today...

Not tomorrow or Thursday etc...

[Virtually_Handsome]

OK, I see. And without the marriage certificate they might not want to talk to you about him, I guess. But I would think they could still talk in general terms?

[beepee]

Serenity, Puppy certainly did!!

I need to lose a lot of weight anyway too but am just worried that it might not be healthy! But I think I'm OK.

No offense taken at all, I always feel the need to be polite because I don't want to anger people in my emails. But this is something I really need so I have to be firm. I really, really hope he gets back to me.

Jeff, without the marriage cert, or ANY proof, they might not be able to discuss much with me regarding him. I was told to bring some proof but I totally forgot that he had taken absolutely every single document with him. It would be much better if I had the MC as I want than a general discussion but if he decides that he doesn't want to get back to me, then that's something I have to settle with.

[beepee]

So I got a response from H.. I no longer want to call him H. I will call him X.

B,
I am putting a copy of the marraige certificate in the mail
tomorrow morning, express, you'll have it on thursday morning,
likewise with the hard drive, I'm working two jobs at the moment
and I have very very little time to spare to meet, especially on friday,

D

Ahh.."very very" little time to meet. But he does have time to spare to go online and flirt with random girls.. what a lovely man he is. I knew he was going to send it in the mail. At least I'm getting what I need, but I'll only believe it when it arrives in the mail.

[hopeful_cb]

Ok Beep, so from your reaction it doesnt sound like its the response you wanted, and tbh i might feel the same way if it were me, but look at the positives, 1. he responded, 2. you should have the 2 things you need on time (if he follows thru) which is good for you. Hope he follows thru. Act as if he will and if it doesnt happen deal with it then.

What are you doing for you today?

[beepee]

journaling..

I hate X. I'm feeling really angry right now. I'm trying not to let his stupid email get to me. "Very very little time to spare" my ass!!

Well now that he's gotten back to me, I don't ever have to email him again. He already knows to pick up his stuff. He already knows I'm not signing his forms. ITS OVER!

I feel liberated yet still trapped at the same time. I've chosen not to pursue our R/M anymore because, well, I don't like the person he's become and looking back at all the things he's done to me, I don't want anything to do with him right now. Its a good thing that he rarely contacts me because NC is what I need right now. I need to be free of him, clear my head of thoughts about him. That way I can truly move on.

I remember posting on here about how much I wanted some form of contact with him because I never got any and wished that it would come true and it did and it was all unnecessary. Maybe it was a sign, something telling me that this is not good for me and in order for me to truly recognise that, I was given what I had wished for and it made me see that I don't want or need this/him in my life. So in a sense, it actually WAS NECESSARY to go through the pain of those emails and accusations etc. I'm very glad that it happened, it has steered me into an entirely different and new direction, one that I know will lead me to happiness.

Who knows what the future will hold. Maybe we'll be friends, maybe we won't. Either way, it doesn't matter to me right now. I just want to be happy, I want to live again and I'm going to. I promise myself that I will never, ever, allow anyone to take away my happiness. I hate this feeling of not being in control. I have lost control of myself for the past few months and its going to take awhile to fully get it back but once I do, I'm never ever going to let it go.

Life is too short, there's so much that I want to do and see, to experience. I have so much love to give and I will give it to someone who wants it and who will treasure it, not to someone who is running away from it. I will always remember and cherish the good times with X but that chapter is over, but that is ok. It was a lesson to be learned and an experience that I know will lead me to a more fulfilling, happy existence.