Not sure if this is MLC but...

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Yikes! I actually got to have some real practice at changing the way I react just over my lunch hour...

H is out looking at apartments with DD - hopefully finding out how terribly expensive it's going to be to live on his own...

I noticed when I looked at the caller ID for our house phone that a former coworker of his had called... former coworker is friend of the XGF of the male friend he's hanging out with all the time.

Immediately, my mind thinks that H must be having an affair with XGF, not hanging out with his friend, and her friend is calling to say something about it? (I've accused him of having an affair with the XGF because the number he calls used to be hers - apparently she and his friend switched phones)

I did call H to see how his search was going, and it was not too fruitful as of yet - and I didn't bring up the phone call.

I asked myself - what would I gain by doing this?

In all honesty, she probably heard through the grapevine - since H's friend and XGF see each other every day to switch off with the kid, XGF knows that we talked about separating last week. She probably said something to her friend about it, and friend was probably calling to ask him WTH he was doing, because I am the sweetest, nicest person in the world, and pregnant too...

Also, I think XGF would definitely not be the type to go after a pregnant woman's husband...

So, sanity prevails in my mind... for once

So - I pulled this post from my original post on Newcomers back in June - this particular former coworker called back again today and I actually called the number back and chatted with her for a while. She didn't seem to know anything about the pregnancy or the separation, so maybe she was just going through her phone and calling people she used to know to say hi or something. Not hard to believe that she wouldn't really hang out with the same people anymore (he hasn't been at the job for two years and she's been gone from there longer), and she did used to call occasionally to see what was going on...

I did text H "I just talked to XXX from former job" to see if he'd call back and what he would say though...

I am kind of amazed at this point at how paranoid I used to be about everything, even a few short months ago. Honestly, I could find out now about an OW and probably not care so much - I wouldn't let H be in the delivery room, and I'd probably go ahead and file for divorce...