It's fine to take a break from IC. It's also fine to tell your IC that you feel you've reached a plateau, the last few sessions haven't felt productive and ask him/her for insights as to why.
Also, I completely empathize and identify with the current withering of your feelings for your W. I'm not sure if this is the case with you, but I'm going to tell you a piece of my story so you can file it away for 'just in case'.
When things were at their worst with H, I became completely numb. I had no feelings for him because I had no feelings pretty much period. The hurt had been so constant and so intense that shutting down my feelings for him was a defense mechanism to spare me additional pain. That said, it was not a conscious process, not something I had active control over.
Over time, as the pain faded, my loving feelings for him returned full force - even without being near him, without apologies, without him doing one blessed thing to help the process along. In fact, even with him telling me he was seeing someone else. That is the great tragedy of our sitch. I love my husband deeply and completely, and I understand now that I always did.
Be *very* careful about coming to the conclusion that you don't love your W anymore. It may not be an accurate conclusion if you're anywhere near the space I was in.
Apparently, he is unable to forgive me or he is unwilling to look past the fear. If you can at all avoid it, try not to let it get to that place with your W.
Last edited by Dia; 08/11/0902:27 PM.
The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.
My sitch - Divorce Busted! http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1804137#Post1804137
