I made sure I got home later than usual. Shen I got home, W and S7 were playing in his room. She greeted me with something along the lines of "Hi, if you take over here, I will go get dinner started." Inside I was asking myself "WTF? Last night you told me you were filing this week to follow your "path" and now it's 'I'll go get dinner ready?'"
Totally normal. You are not the only one on a rollercoaster (detaching will get you off of it and then you can just watch her on it). Now that she seems to be going up, expect the down soon.
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In the past I would have pushed to find out what was really going on in there. Now I'll just play along. After my backsliding this weekend, I want to detach, give space and GAL for a while.
Good. Very good. Act like nothing is wrong. In fact, you are the happiest person around her. Just b/c you are. Fake it at first if you have to.
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W is planning a trip to see family this weekend. She is taking S7. This never happened before the Bomb. We always went as a family. Part of my 180 was to say sure, go ahead, have fun. In an effort to get a little space from my backsliding I told her I was OK with them heading out a few days early if she wanted to.
Good here as well. Now, find something you have wanted to do when she's gone but you have not been able to. Get outdoors, go for a hike, play golf, go fishing. Something, anything. Stay busy and have fun.
And when she's gone, don't call, txt or email, unless it is to talk to son, and then only once a day (I chose night, just before bed when W went out of town with the kids the 1st time after the bomb). If SHE calls you, cool. Just let HER be the one who initiates.
