I agree with the other posters about him pushing your boundaries STILL. No should mean no. If he was going to sulk, whine, pout or threaten to leave (um, seems like he's a bit scared YOU might do that), you could just say, "Sorry, not interested, and even LESS interested when you act like a 2-year old."
It seems like he needed a way to...hmmm...reassure himself that he was still in control. You knocked him for a loop, and so he's got to make sure he's still Alpha.
Do you remember the scene in Jurassic Park where the T-Rexes keep bumping into the electric fence (before it all goes terribly wrong)? The guide/ranger tells the group that they are testing the fence for weaknesses, despite being shocked horribly.
Your H is like that T-Rex. He is testing for weak spots. He didn't remove the profiles because he is certain he is going to bully you back in to the lifestyle.
No matter what happens in your sitch, you need to learn how to set and keep boundaries. I think there's a book many people recommend on this site called Boundaries in Marriage. It is from a Christian perspective, but I understand it's not really preachy (and I'm not particularly religious). Maybe your C can help you work on this area too.
Do you know what your non-negotiables are? I suggest you think about that and write it. Then, bring it with you to MC. YOU are going to have to speak up FIRST. Your H is going to try to take control of that arena too. Bring in your non-negotiable list, and make sure the C hears about the pressure to swing.
It's okay to set boundaries to keep yourself happy and healthy. There is nothing wrong with you. Your H is a bully, and he's not used to hearing 'no.' Be prepared for a lot of loud fireworks and pushing as you set your boundaries. But honey, you have got to stick up for yourself and stand firm.
"I'm sorry you aren't happy about this, but this is a boundary of mine. I am not willing to be disrespected in this matter."
Meanwhile, I might buy H a gift certificate for yoga and pilates lessons...you know, to increase flexibility so he can...ahem...take care of his own BJ needs....
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
