Hey Kat, nice to see you ! I am glad you are doing ok too.
I agree with you, this has been a journey for me as well as rekindling my R and I have definetly changed!! Everyone has noticed, bf too of course. I have learnt so much and I hope, changed for the better. I wouldnt want to go back to the person I was before and I am much happier, freer, braver and less neurotic now. I thanked him for that. I was carrying alot of stuff from age 17/18 and its finally laid to rest, thanks to him leaving me and having to face myself. So yes, the changes stuck, as I actually changed.
But, in terms of this forum, I feel lucky that I am piecing and I dont take it for granted, whether that has anything to do with DBing, I am not so sure. Looking at the numbers of people who posted to me, I reckon the odds on getting the R back is about 1 in 20, 5% at best. That may well be the average law of nature anyway, dbing or not dbing, for those that still love their ex's, if you see what I mean. So I think my ex may have come back, no matter what I did really, although the changes I made perhaps helped the process.
So, you've made me think.. I am going to ask him that question!! It would be interesting to see how much of the db techniques he picked up on and how it affected his decision.. I will report back !
