Yep he’s still confused; he does seem to be wavering a bit. You’re doing great; patience is the hardest thing though. I would give it a couple of meetings more and then maybe gently test the waters? Casually offer him a cup of tea next time he picks the kids up, he may say no and then you will know that it’s too soon. If it’s a yes great but you must appear that it’s no biggy either way. Do you need to call the kids when they are with him? Or would it simply be an excuse to interact with him? If it’s the first do it if not don’t. It’s the kid’s time with him and their relationship is for them to decide and develop without you at this stage. Took me ages to get that one – I really have to bite my tongue here and don’t always succeed to practice what I preach. Trixi’s right it would be good to give some thought to what YOU would like to see in a new R too.
