Your deacon is part of your emotional support system. I have no doubt that your wife has family or friends who form her support system, and she has talked to them about your situation. It is unfair of her to have a support system of her own, but think that you should not have one. This is particularly true when there is an emotional crisis going on, as in, now. A deacon is a very good choice of a person in whom to confide. I suspect he keeps confidences to himself much more than the average person. You have nothing to be ashamed of here.
